Building You Up,Cutting You Down

Be careful who you depend on for your self-steem.If you depend on others,the invalidator will shower you with compliments until you are totally dependent on him,then he will take you apart piece by piece until you are in his control.
The whole idea is to get you introverted and introspective so you don't notice what is going on outside yourself.Once you start looking anxiously and self-consciously at yourself,the invalidator will subtly draw your attention to all your most negative qualities.This will make you feel weaker,more susceptible to control.
By doing this,the invalidator can pull you down to size.He may feel that he worries too much,while you usually appear calm and confident.If he can get you to come down to his level and start worrying more,then he feels superior.Abd oh!by the way,he will be the first to offer to help.
After a while,you worry about what he thinks,What he will do,Wether he will be angry at you or not.You stop looking at yourself after a while because you see so much wrong with you that you totally depend on him for your sense of worth.
And then when even he doesn't want you.......?